I’m going to be real and brutally honest here for a second.
If you truly thought it was okay to have what you want right now, you would already have it.
Yet, so many of us – especially in regard to our health – are struggling, trying to get from Point A to Point B. So what’s stopping us? I’m sure a lot of things are running through your head right now. We’ve compiled lists and lists of excuses as to why we are not where we want to be. So today, I want to introduce to you the concept of shields.
A shield is a belief around something that you desire, and why you don’t have it or “can’t” get it. Shields come in many different forms: money, human, career… Here are some examples:
– I can’t because I have a family and kids.
– My husband doesn’t support a healthy lifestyle.
– My friends all drink, and I can’t NOT drink with them…
– My spouse, kids, family, friends… they all love me the way I am now. I don’t want to put stress on our relationships… I’m not THAT unhealthy…
– That seems great, but I don’t have the money right now.
– Finances are just too tight; that’s not even a possibility for myself.
– I work too many hours, and I don’t have the energy (my personal shield…)
– My job is so stressful, I don’t want to have to stress about cooking
– If I focus on myself, my career will suffer, and my career is too important…
– I can’t because I don’t have the time and I don’t know the first thing about where to start.
– I should just appreciate what I have because I already am very lucky to have what I have.
Okay. So you’ve identified your shield(s). Now what?
I think it’s important first to understand WHY these shields exist. Sometimes, we know it sounds crazy, but yet we cling to these ideas and beliefs anyway. Here’s some food for thought: it is painful to feel like we can’t get what we want, so we deny wanting it in the first place.
To protect ourself from the pain of loss, the pain of failure, we deny that we ever wanted something in the first place.
But what if….
What if our desires were actually trying to point us in the direction of our life purpose? Or fulfillment? Or satisfaction, or deep resounding happiness? If we accept that any desire has a positive intention, we can then reframe it.
Example: Okay, so I want to lose weight. I want to become the best version of me possible, someone who radiates confidence and positivity. What am I willing to do to make that a possibility? What are the risks if I get what I want? How can I reframe those “risks” into new beliefs that support my goals? I’m afraid that if I get the body I want, that I’ll make people feel bad about themselves – especially my family and friends – and I REALLY don’t want that. But what if I serve as a role model or an inspiration, and I can change someone else’s life for the better? How can I make sure I do that?
YOU are the creator of your results and your reality. Accept and embrace your personal responsibility for your desires, and get out there, and do something about it! 🙂